My son is part of Generation Alpha, those born between 2010 – 2025. He falls in as a pandemic baby, year 2020. Who would have known during the year of the double twenties, we would be at the height of face masks, social distancing and lockdowns. And there I am, my first pregnancy, not what I had imagined but nevertheless, I’m thankful to have had a safe delivery and a healthy baby boy. Just to think, in ten years, I will have an adolescent. They say you have between 7 to13 years to teach a child and 5 years to guide and facilitate them to adulthood. Day by day, week by week, month by month, year by year and boom. You look up and this time, your baby isn’t a baby anymore. What did I teach him? What does he know about life? Is he a good person? Toddlers grow up to children, to adolescent, to adult. Whatever we do as parents, we have to start when the child is young. That is the pro tip: Start when your children are young. I got my son on a sleeping pattern, in his own bed, at a very young age. Now he takes one nap a day, goes to sleep around the same time every day and sleeps through the night. He’s a toddler, of course he gives me fuss when he doesn’t want to do it and that’s ok. I am strong enough to understand the mindset of a toddler. I’m wise enough to know that, when we do what we don’t want to do, especially when it’s something productive, it makes us mentally stronger. Instill values and beliefs while they are young. Make your children do the things that children complain about doing. They may cry and you may not want to hear that, but it will make them stronger. Condition your own child. If you don’t, the government will. If you stay ignorant, he school system will condition your child. If you are not giving your child attention, he media will snatch up your child’s attention and condition them. The fact that everyone is and will be a consumer will condition your child. And guess where children learn their consumer behavior from? By imitating parents and relevant models.
I say all this to say, I stand for a strong family foundation. An organized family. A family that can have open honest meaningful communication. Foundation. The origin from Latin is fundare “to lay a base for.” So, when I say a family foundation, we are setting the system in place so future generations can keep the system functioning. We are creating the underlying basis and principles for our family. Teach our children how to ask questions and we, don’t be afraid to answer. Teach how to learn and know the dots and how to connect them. Teach our children our ideologies and show them how these values will help them. To do that, we have to heal. We have to inner stand how our decisions, the things we say and do, effects our children.
We have to take a look at reality. Question what is going on for us and not just accept everything. Life goes from generation to generation, or your bloodline can die out. Are we going to continue to let perspective out live reality? Why is it that ultimately when we get home from a long day of work and errands, it’s the television that rush home to. Isolated in our homes watching everyone’s favorite tv show. Tv shows are used to Tel-a-vision. Our reality is what we live in. And we have to live in our truth as a people. What is really going on here on Earth, in America. Man and Woman. Law of the land or Maritime law. Home of the free, Land of the brave. Let’s be brave so we can be free. So, our children can lead behind us to protect our future generations and our earth.
Us people raising children. Raise means to increase the amount, level, or strength of. We often confuse raising with maintaining children. Yet, there is so much brokenness among us. Knowing who you are and what you and your family stand for, having that strong family foundation, can conform a lot of lost souls. Bring values and morals. When people say “Man, life doesn’t have to be like this.” You’re right. It doesn’t. But millions more everyday people have to believe that life doesn’t have to be like this. Especially us parents. People raising children. Us average Jo’s have to realize the power is in the people. Communities can cooperate with each other and keep peace. We set the example.
We want our children to do what we say, but we should all know by now, our children do what they see. Create a healthy relationship with our children. I say create a relationship because it is not automatically given. We have to put in work to keep a relationship functioning. Time and effort. Parents want so much from their children and often lack to reciprocate. Just because we keep a roof over our children’s head, food in their mouths, and clothes on their backs does not guarantee a strong bond with your child. We keep our family strong by laying a strong foundation for your child. And start when they are young!
Even if you are a single parent. You are still a family. Be strong. Breaking generational curses will be hard. It will take a systems breakdown. Of ourselves. We have to ask ourselves those hard questions that could lead to nowhere. If we don’t answer them. We have to be curious. We have to want more. We have to come together on a common ground and cooperate with each other. We can’t be afraid. We are the people. And our actions will be examples for our children. We start with being strong for ourselves and with our family then extend it. Lead by example. Everything they distract us with, keep us from the life that was meant to be. We have purpose, we have meaning, we have soul. It starts with us but we can’t do it without each other.